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Invite MIL dress shopping?

lesliechappelllesliechappell
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Couldn't decide if I should post this under etiquette but I'm wrestling with whether I should invite my future mother in law to go shopping for my wedding dress. My mom, sister grandmother are coming. My MIL is sweet but she makes me question myself a lot. When we were discussing the ring my fiance and i picked out she kept pointing out the negatives, asking if I really wanted that. Um, yeah we picked it out for a reason!

She doesn't mean to come off in a rude way she genuinely thinks she's helping but she just stresses me out sometimes. I want my dress shopping experience to be a happy experience. However, I feel that it will hurt her feelings if I don't ask her. I want this whole wedding to set the tone for our relationship and I want to respect her.

Should I invite her to go with us? Will it be a disaster? Help!!
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Re: Invite MIL dress shopping?

  • ELM12345ELM12345
    I am no help. I went by myself for that very reason.
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  • KindaSparklyKindaSparkly
    I didn't invite mine. You could always invite her to a fitting afterwards.
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  • JordanF13JordanF13
    I invited my FMIL, she declined. She came to the fitting later.
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  • NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
    edited March 2013
    There is no need to invite her. You have enough people already. You don't need a posse, and especially one that includes someone who makes you feel uncomfortable. Invite her to a fitting if you think she's miffed.
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  • saric83saric83
    It can be a nice gesture, but it isn't necessary.  Does she have any daughters?  What does your FI think? 

    I invited my MIL to my dress fitting, and I wasn't that surprised that she came, but I was surprised at how much it meant for her to be included.  She was really excited because she has three sons and hasn't had the opportunity to be included in something like that.  

    If you end up inviting her but are concerned about her questions/comments, talk with your dress consultant when you're getting into the first dress, and they should be able to help wrangle the crowd and keep the conversation on what you like and don't like. 
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