Get over it!!! Need to vent

rel1988 · March 2013

My bday is coming up 4/10, my best guy friend's is 4/12, and his gf who I'm also friend's with is 4/13. In college we always threw big get togethers to celebrate. At one point in time I dated his cousin for only 3 months---this was 2 years ago. His bday happens to be 4/11. Keeping up with tradition we still continue to have these get-togethers a bar. I moved 2 hours away a few months after we broke up and wasn't able to attend last year's bday festivities. I just found out today that his cousin/my ex asked specifially that I not be invited to this years because it is "akward". I just think this is riduculous!! I am engaged now, would be attending with my FI, and these are all my friends too. Yes I don't get to see them as often since moving away, but some are still invited to my wedding. We dated for a speck of time and he broke up with me via Facebook to get back together with an ex and that was that...Ugh just need to vent!!!

sydaries · March 2013

Well tell his cousin that he needs to change his birthday. Sometimes it is around the same time as people who "suck' - ish happens.

LingerLonger1 · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_get-over-it-need-to-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:2735453c-0e8f-4e26-818b-9feb57e1ec6aPost:65399036-7b4a-4d17-90e0-94d6b55772d6">Get over it!!! Need to vent</a>:
[QUOTE]My bday is coming up 4/10, my best guy friend's is 4/12, and his gf who I'm also friend's with is 4/13. In college we always threw big get togethers to celebrate. At one point in time I dated his cousin for only 3 months---this was 2 years ago. His bday happens to be 4/11. Keeping up with tradition we still continue to have these get-togethers a bar. I moved 2 hours away a few months after we broke up and wasn't able to attend last year's bday festivities. I just found out today that his cousin/my ex asked specifially that I not be invited to this years because it is "akward". I just think this is riduculous!! I am engaged now, would be attending with my FI, and these are all my friends too. Yes I don't get to see them as often since moving away, but some are still invited to my wedding. We dated for a speck of time and he broke up with me via Facebook to get back together with an ex and that was that...Ugh just need to vent!!!
Posted by rel1988[/QUOTE]
So the cousin wins and you don't get invited? These are not your friends.

rel1988 · March 2013

My friend is in a weird spot because they are family. I understand that. All my other friends agree he is being a big baby and don't see why I can't be there. FI thinks we should just show up anyways because it's a public bar. I just don't want to come off of as the "weird, stalker" ex. He does see them more than me now because he lives by all of them and I don't.

LingerLonger1 · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_get-over-it-need-to-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:2735453c-0e8f-4e26-818b-9feb57e1ec6aPost:06666684-d8b6-4a80-a383-d851df628229">Re: Get over it!!! Need to vent</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>My friend is in a weird spot because they are family.</strong> I understand that. All my other friends agree he is being a big baby and don't see why I can't be there. <strong>FI thinks we should just show up anyways because it's a public bar.</strong> I just don't want to come off of as the "weird, stalker" ex. He does see them more than me now because he lives by all of them and I don't.
Posted by rel1988[/QUOTE]
No he isn't. He could have said to his cousin "you are being unreasonable and we won't cater to that unreasonableness." Instead he gave in to the cousin. I say again this is not your friend. Your friend would stick up for you and refuse to cater to immaturity.

Don't do that. You will look crazy to your "friends." Why would you want to spend time with people that obviously don't care to spend time with you? Make plans with better friends or just your H and have a good time on your birthday. Forget these assholes.

mrskaiser22 · March 2013

In Response to Re: Get over it!!! Need to vent:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Get over it!!! Need to vent : No he isn't. He could have said to his cousin "you are being unreasonable and we won't cater to that unreasonableness." Instead he gave in to the cousin. I say again this is not your friend. Your friend would stick up for you and refuse to cater to immaturity. Don't do that. You will look crazy to your "friends." Why would you want to spend time with people that obviously don't care to spend time with you? Make plans with better friends or just your H and have a good time on your birthday. Forget these assholes.
Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

I agree with Linger. I'm sorry your "friends" are being d.cks to you. Be the bigger person and move on from these kids.

Peledreamsofrain · March 2013

I would never talk to them again, done deal. I stopped playing 'lets exclude so and so' in Middle School. Any sign of it, and I'm gone gone gone.

Sierra524 · March 2013

That is so childish of him to say that he doesnt want you there. && its pretty sh**ty of your friend to not just say "No, I am not going to exclude her." Make plans with FI & a few friends or family & forgot those losers.

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