Dollar Dance Alternative?

keverhart123 · March 2013

I'm looking for some dollar dance alternatives. We aren't opposed to it, but we would like to do something different than the traditional and expected dollar dance. Anyone have ideas??

Lored · March 2013

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[QUOTE]I'm looking for some dollar dance alternatives. We aren't opposed to it, but we would like to do something different than the traditional and expected dollar dance. Anyone have ideas??
Posted by keverhart123[/QUOTE]

I've never heard of the dollar dance until I started lurking here. I guess it's a regional thing?

Honestly, if its what I think it is, it screams tacky. Not sure what other fundraising ideas you are looking for at your wedding.

daria24 · March 2013

The usual suggestion is a "well wishes" dance, you ask everyone to write you a wish/message on a slip of paper and they drop that into the bag instead of money.

AddieL73 · March 2013

It's always in poor taste to hit people up for money. If you must do this, I suggest you take Daria's advice and gather well-wishes, not money.

mrsbobfilson · March 2013

In America, practice of a money dance varies by geographic region and ethnic background of the families involved. It typically involves guests giving small sums of cash to the bride or pinning cash to her gown or veil. Sometimes the money is placed in an apron held by the maid of honor or a female relative and the best man gives shots of whiskey to participants before the dance.

Even cultures that accept this may balk at paying the groom for his time and attention, so alternatives have developed, such as "paying" the groom with play money or a stick of chewing gum. Some consider this a way for the bride and groom to have face time with their guests and to wish them luck. Some couples place a small bowl on each table for guests to leave cash or checks so that guests won't feel obligated to 'pay' for a short dance with the bride or groom, while still giving them the opportunity to spend 30–60 seconds chatting and dancing with them as the newlywed couple visits each table. Others say that the money will be for their firstborn child so the money is not for the couple.

PS The dollar dance has been around FOREVER!

Lored · March 2013

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[QUOTE]In America, practice of a money dance varies by geographic region and ethnic background of the families involved. It typically involves guests giving small sums of cash to the bride or pinning cash to her gown or veil. Sometimes the money is placed in an apron held by the maid of honor or a female relative and the best man gives shots of whiskey to participants before the dance. Even cultures that accept this may balk at paying the groom for his time and attention, so alternatives have developed, such as "paying" the groom with play money or a stick of chewing gum . Some consider this a way for the bride and groom to have face time with their guests and to wish them luck. Some couples place a small bowl on each table for guests to leave cash or checks so that guests won't feel obligated to 'pay' for a short dance with the bride or groom, while still giving them the opportunity to spend 30–60 seconds chatting and dancing with them as the newlywed couple visits each table. Others say that the money will be for their firstborn child so the money is not for the couple. PS The dollar dance has been around FOREVER!
Posted by mrsbobfilson[/QUOTE]

Thank you for the historical info. Sorry if this is anyone's "norm", it just makes me nauseous. At best, you're asking your hosted guests for money. At worst, you are "paying for face time" with bride and groom. A gracious bride and groom should be able to say a quick thank you to each guest without monetary incentive.

TXKristan · March 2013

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[QUOTE]The usual suggestion is a "well wishes" dance, you ask everyone to write you a wish/message on a slip of paper and they drop that into the bag instead of money.
Posted by daria24[/QUOTE]

I know a couple who did this and it was adorable! And they loves seeing our individual wishes to them

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