Untraditionally Traditional

JBSMADA10

I don't know if I fit in here or not. Our wedding is formal and ceremony is taking place in a church, however our colors are dark and our theme is Baroque Enchantment. Our first dance will be Papa Roach's No Matter What. We aren't doing a big cake, opting for a cake topper and shot glass desserts. My Mother and FMIL both have said they don't like my bouquet, it's black and gray fabric flowers and brooches. I just want to know that it's okay to show this kind of vision. I am feeling lots of pull and negativity because our wedding has an "eerie" feel. 

Smack some confidence back into me that this is okay.

Schatzi13

Do you and FI like your bouquet? Do you guys think "eerie" (or however your wedding actually feels) is in line with what you want? Are you happy with how things are turning out? Is it in line with your vision?

Properly hosting your guests is the part of the wedding that concerns others, so certain things must be done there. Decorations and colors, however, are extras that don't really concern others (unless they're getting in they way of proper hosting somehow). That's more individual.

gmcr78

If that's who you are and what you want, go for it.  Only the people paying for the wedding have any say in the details.
Agree with PP, as long as you're hosting your guests properly, it doesn't matter if people like your colors or decor.
If feedback is becoming a problem, stop sharing your wedding details.

ETA: Share the details with us!  We love it, especially the offbeat ideas.   That's what we're here for!

FluffyGumDrop2

Welcome and congratulations on your upcoming wedding!

No matter what type of wedding you have, someone will have an issue with it and would "never do that if it was MY wedding!" You decide to have a beach wedding, someone hates the sand and sun. You desire a small, family wedding and someone is mad that X person didn't get an invite. If you try to appease everyone by going the traditional route, then someone thinks it's too boring and unoriginal. If you have it on a Friday then you get told, "why isn't it on a Saturday?" If you have it on a Saturday afternoon it becomes "why isn't it Saturday night!" At the end of the day, is this the atmosphere and vibe the two of you want for your wedding day?

I agree with the PP regarding there are obviously certain etiquette rules that need to be addressed but things like colors, decorations, etc are completely up to the two of you! As long as your guests are hosted properly then everyone should have a great time at your wedding. 

People tend to get a specific idea or image of what a wedding is in their minds which is probably why you're getting some push back from your family. Hopefully when your mom and FMIL see how everything comes together on the day, they'll really enjoy themselves and not focus on, "omg is that a grey and black bouquet!"

I hope everything works out for you!

BMcLeodTeam

As the ladies already said, the important part is whether YOU like these elements. There is always going to be someone with an opinion... You could to the stereotypical diamonds and bling, white roses, flashy wedding and there would still be someone that would tell you something was wrong with it!