Any Bypass Brides?

BustedBeauty

I am going in for bypass in 2 weeks (after a long long road and tons of waiting) and am so nervous.  Are there any bypass brides here?  If so, howhas it impacted your wedding planning or actual wedding?  I have a feeling I will be so insecure trying on gowns.  I guess I am just looking for some words of encouragement 

qtrfan

My daughter did.  She had her surgery in February and married in November, having lost 1/2 her body weight from 300 to about 150 in that period of time.  She purchased her gown in early summer at a size 18 and it fit perfectly.  By late October when she had her final fitting, she was drowning in the gown.  The seamstress did a beautiful job.  However, by the wedding  day, she had lost more weight and the gown was a little too loose - but it looked OK.

One warning I might add is to be sure you and your FI are on the same page with this surgery.  Her marriage failed in less than 6 months after they had been together 5 years prior to the wedding.  There are a lot of dynamics involved with obesity and relationships.   Considering her ex moved on to another obese woman after the divorce, we learned that he is attracted to big women.  Plus my daughter gained her voice and confidence as she lost the weight and she was less likely to take his crap.  He was not happy with a woman who would actually stand up for herself.

I am 2 years out from surgery having lost 100 lbs, so I know what you are going through. It is so worth it. I assume you have had counseling prior to your surgery, so it might be worth your time to discuss your future marriage. It would be good to include your FI if that is possible.  This weight loss just doesn't change your body - it changes your entire image physically and mentally how you think about yourself.  You want to be sure that both you and your guy are prepared because it is so much more than weight loss.