FI wants to spend night before wedding apart, I don't..

Knottie

Schatzi13

I'm afraid the two of you will have to work this out yourselves. There is no right way to spend the night before your wedding (apart or together) except for what works the best for the two of you. A bunch of strangers can't tell you what that is.

itzMS

Knottie

misssunshine17

Can you sleep in your house but stay in separate rooms? Also, why can't HE stay somewhere else then?

Knottie

We have a 1 bedroom house. His only reasoning for this is because he thinks it's traditional. I guess I can stay with my parents, it's just I didn't want to lug everything from our house, to theirs, etc. Oh well, just wanted some opinions. Hardly worth arguing about.

Joy2611

Knottie

Thanks ladies! I'm sure this topic will be brought up a few nights before the wedding, and if he still says he wants to spend it apart, I will stay with my parents..

GoodLuckBear14

Tell him it's also traditional for the man to hit the couch after a fight and leave the bed to his wife.

kristbot

Seriously, why can't he stay somewhere else? If he want's to spend the night apart then he should find somewhere else to stay.

sydaries

Peledreamsofrain

Schatzi13

I somehow missed that you would be the one to stay somewhere besides the home you share - reading fail. Though I still can't say what to do, I can say that, if he's the one who wants to sleep apart, and that's what you guys decide to do, he should be the one to be inconvenienced by sleeping elsewhere.

Liatris2010

If he insists on spending the night apart, then he should be the one to leave. To be honest, I'd think twice about marrying someone so willing to kick me out of my own bed/apartment.

scribe95

Knottie

winelover123

To tell you the truth, I haven't even thought of this so I have no idea what FI and myself will do. There isn't a right or a wrong way. I'd tell your FI that if he wants to spend the night apart, he gets to find a bed elsewhere. I wouldn't want to lug all of my wedding stuff around and go further away from the hairdresser. Maybe if you present the logistics of staying in separate houses he'll give this idea up. Or he'll go find a bed elsewhere and not inconvenience you. He could always sleep on the couch too if this is something really important to him.

sydaries

AddieL73

I agree it's no big deal if he wants to stay apart, but then he should be the one to leave.

rel1988

mcda04

Jen4948

If he really wants to be traditional, you and he should not be acquainted, let alone living in the same house, before your wedding day.  Tell him that if he wants to be separated the night before, he is the one who will need to leave the house.

Erikan73

We spent the night before apart because my husband also wanted to do things traditional even though we had already been living together for a year & he was previously married. He had done JP first time around and he wanted all the traditional stuff this time. So I figured, he didn't ask for much when it came to planning so I gave in. I found a cute B&B that was right by my hair salon so it worked out. Plus I figured when our dogs get up at 5:30 AM, he got the pleasure of dealing with them. To be honest, it was nice to have some me time to relax & be away from everyone & clear my head (I do have aniexty issues too so I needed to focus on stress relief). I would vote for go with his request but just explain to him that since your home is closer to where you need to be the next morning, could he find someone else's home (or even a hotel) to stay at so that way you don't have as much driving around to do on your wedding day. Hopefully he'll agree to why it makes sense for you to stay in the home & he gets what he wants & you get partially what you want.

cbrown828