Bizarre shower invite -- "please bring presents unwrapped"

OwningAHome1981

In Response to Re:Bizarre shower invite :[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Bizarre shower invite:In Response to Re:Bizarre shower invite : I agree with your last statement. I didnt say my way is right but I gave reasons as to why it is done and why I am doing mine that way. People certainly do not have to do how I am. Givings reasons for something being done a certain way isnt saying its right or wrong. My preference is to hang out with my guests. If someone elses preference is to open gifts, fine.Posted by OwningAHome1981Yes, but you are suggesting something against etiquette on the etiquette board. We've all done stuff against etiquette, why are you the only one advocating it instead of just moving on? Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]

Stating reasons for why it is done is not advocating it. Me doing it for my own shower is not advocating for others to do it. The OP thought it was an odd request so I explained reasons why it is done and added that its a new thing. I did not advice her to do it this way or that it is right in the slightest.

kmbryant2413

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Bizarre shower invite : Stating reasons for why it is done is not advocating it. Me doing it for my own shower is not advocating for others to do it. The OP thought it was an odd request so I explained reasons why it is done and added that its a new thing. I did not advice her to do it this way or that it is right in the slightest.
Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

<div>The purpose of this board is to suggest to others what etiquette says they SHOULD DO. This is not the 'Opinions' board. If you would like to give others your <em>opinion</em> on how you did it, head on over to Registering and Gifts, or Pre-wedding Parties.</div>

Brittywest05

Is it maybe an effort to make the party "green"? I know when we registered at Macy's we had the option to decline gift wrap on any online purchase.

TXKristan

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bizarre-shower-invite-please-bring-presents-unwrapped?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a0412f2a-25d1-4307-8f69-d6760a4ddf5dPost:fd76d6e0-a6cb-46d9-a7b2-290e857f3f8b">Re: Bizarre shower invite -- "please bring presents unwrapped"</a>:
[QUOTE]Is it maybe an effort to make the party "green"? I know when we registered at Macy's we had the option to decline gift wrap on any online purchase.
Posted by Brittywest05[/QUOTE]
I'll say this ... if you are ordering a present to ship to the couple's home for the wedding, I suggest not choosing gift wrap.  It was a pain and we also had the packing slip that told us what was in the package anyway.

cbrown828

I have seen this done. I was told it was a "custom" in the small southern town where the shower was held, but I would bet it's not too common outside of that town. The whole point was so she didn't have to be bothered unwrapping gifts. They were all layed out on tables and stuff, and it was super awkward just walking along and looking at each thing. Even worse was the bride complaining to us bridesmaids that people got her things that she didn't register for.

OwningAHome1981

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bizarre-shower-invite-please-bring-presents-unwrapped?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a0412f2a-25d1-4307-8f69-d6760a4ddf5dPost:8c708b59-1c58-4e16-8efa-4bf3d8ce9eb3">Re: Bizarre shower invite -- "please bring presents unwrapped"</a>:
[QUOTE]I have seen this done. I was told it was a "custom" in the small southern town where the shower was held, but I would bet it's not too common outside of that town. The whole point was so she didn't have to be bothered unwrapping gifts. They were all layed out on tables and stuff, and it was super awkward just walking along and looking at each thing. Even worse was the bride complaining to us bridesmaids that people got her things that she didn't register for.
Posted by cbrown828[/QUOTE]

This bride just seems like lazy and classless.

There are ways to do a shower like that and still be classy.

Peledreamsofrain

We've asked OAH multiple times why she just isn't having a luncheon if gifts are so icky. She never answers, and mostly protests how her guests could never possibly be offended of her treating them that way. Methinks perhaps it is actually all about the lewt for her.

OwningAHome1981

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bizarre-shower-invite-please-bring-presents-unwrapped?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a0412f2a-25d1-4307-8f69-d6760a4ddf5dPost:599f8b74-79bf-4ed3-bcd7-7936495c79e5">Re:Bizarre shower invite quot;please bring presents unwrappedquot;</a>:
[QUOTE]We've asked OAH multiple times why she just isn't having a <strong>luncheon</strong> if gifts are so icky. She never answers, and mostly protests how her guests could never possibly be offended of her treating them that way. Methinks perhaps it is actually all about the lewt for her.
Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

I did answer this. My mom created the invites and called it a shower. Nothing I can do.

Liatris2010

In Response to Re:Bizarre shower invite :[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Bizarre shower invite quot;please bring presents unwrappedquot;:We've asked OAH multiple times why she just isn't having a luncheon if gifts are so icky. She never answers, and mostly protests how her guests could never possibly be offended of her treating them that way. Methinks perhaps it is actually all about the lewt for her.Posted by PeledreamsofrainI did answer this. My mom created the invites and called it a shower. Nothing I can do. Posted by OwningAHome1981[/QUOTE]

You could stop advocating it as an alternative.

xt5678

OMG half the fun of getting presents is OPENING them (which is why I still try to wrap with paper versus a bag). This is clearly something we lose from childhood, which is the genuine excitment about gifts and ripping that sucker open. To these brides, I advise channel your inner child. And be gracious for any gift you receive any way you get it!