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  • NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
    edited March 2013
    In Response to Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?:
    [QUOTE]What's a girl to do when you have 4 bm who are willing to help with plans at a moments notice and one who basically gives off the "who cares" vibe and I now have myself questioning my bp choices. Any questions or opinions I put out mainly get responded by all my other girls but one, and all the parties and planning dates we've set I have myself down one bm regularly. I get the impression that she's uninterested and the wedding is 4 months away. What do I do now?
    Posted by Roseblair[/QUOTE]

    Why are you having your honored BFF's help you plan? Seems to me that's between you, your fiance, and maybe your mom. Maybe she's excited for the wedding that is still four months away. Have you talked to her about this?
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  • rb1734arb1734a member
    If she doesn't help you plan and jump at a moment's notice, then she obviously isn't a good friend and is unreliable.  In my opinion, girls like her should never be included in a bridal party because they just can't be trusted to get things done. And who wants bridesmaids that can't get all the little things done?  Especially the parties-those should be planned and paid for, no excuses.  Kick her out now-at least she might be able to get her money back on her dress.  
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  • AddieL73AddieL73
    edited March 2013
    Why would you DO anything? If you need help with wedding planning, your fiance should help you. Your bridesmaids are not responsible for helping you pull off a wedding. And what the hell are "planning dates?"
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  • AddieL73AddieL73
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:f0df6488-cbcc-4a6c-9960-94d7b6fe3004">Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]If she doesn't help you plan and jump at a moment's notice, then she obviously isn't a good friend and is unreliable.  In my opinion, girls like her should never be included in a bridal party because they just can't be trusted to get things done. And who wants bridesmaids that can't get all the little things done?  Especially the parties-those should be planned and paid for, no excuses.  Kick her out now-at least she might be able to get her money back on her dress.  
    Posted by rb1734a[/QUOTE]


    Seriously?
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  • rb1734arb1734a member
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:90d26c50-0b11-498b-a1b6-b164c193d1a9">Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Why would you DO anything? If you need help with wedding planning, your fiance should help you. Your bridesmaids are not responsible for helping you pull off a wedding.
    Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

    <div>Why would the bridesmaid NOT do anything?  It's not the bride's responsibility to do all that-why else would there be wedding parties if not to deal with all the BS that comes with planning a wedding?  You very incorrect-just google "bridesmaid responsibilities" and you'll realize that they are obligated to do a whole lot.  (Don't people know how to use the google?)</div>
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  • TXKristanTXKristan
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:f0df6488-cbcc-4a6c-9960-94d7b6fe3004">Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]If she doesn't help you plan and jump at a moment's notice, then she obviously isn't a good friend and is unreliable.  In my opinion, girls like her should never be included in a bridal party because they just can't be trusted to get things done. And who wants bridesmaids that can't get all the little things done?  Especially the parties-those should be planned and paid for, no excuses.  Kick her out now-at least she might be able to get her money back on her dress.  
    Posted by rb1734a[/QUOTE]



    Say whaaaaat?
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  • TXKristanTXKristan
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:e315f92f-146f-4792-870a-0c72b92ddc24">Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]What's a girl to do when you have 4 bm who are willing to help with plans at a moments notice and one who basically gives off the "who cares" vibe and I now have myself questioning my bp choices.
    Any questions or opinions I put out mainly get responded by all my other girls but one, and all the parties and planning dates we've set I have myself down one bm regularly.
    I get the impression that she's uninterested and the wedding is 4 months away. What do I do now?
    Posted by Roseblair[/QUOTE]



    I totally had a BM like that 4 months out. That was because she was getting married 3 months before my wedding. Your bridesmaids are not vendors who help you "at a moments notice". They are your friends who stand by your side on your wedding day.


    Also, you should not be planning your parties. Let the women who want to host one for you do so.
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  • rb1734arb1734a member
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:5d8f6ff2-e196-40a7-be9f-cf77d56848a3">Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day? : Say whaaaaat?
    Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]

    <div>Uh yeah, simple google search: <a href="http://www.perfect-wedding-day.com/bridesmaid-duties.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.perfect-wedding-day.com/bridesmaid-duties.html</a></div><div>
    </div><div>Check out #1.  Clearly, it IS the responsibility of the bridesmaids to help plan.  Is this really that difficult?  People are so obtuse.</div>
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  • AddieL73AddieL73
    edited March 2013
    Well, if an article on TK claims it, it MUST be true. Looking at the bad advice you are giving all over the boards makes me pray you are just a troll.
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  • TXKristanTXKristan
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:8ef67d76-df63-4c49-9468-a4d050e50ffe">Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day? : Why would the bridesmaid NOT do anything?  It's not the bride's responsibility to do all that-why else would there be wedding parties if not to deal with all the BS that comes with planning a wedding?  You very incorrect-just google "bridesmaid responsibilities" and you'll realize that they are obligated to do a whole lot.  (Don't people know how to use the google?)
    Posted by rb1734a[/QUOTE]



    The wedding industry will give you "bridesmaid duties". These are crap. A friend will likely offer to host a shower or a party, but that needs to be her decision. Also, there is someone great to help with wedding planning BS ... It's called the groom. It's his wedding, too.

    If it's too much to handle, you can scale it back or hire someone to help. Your maids are not your slaves.
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  • AddieL73AddieL73
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:1fb41952-156e-4a00-b63a-28e5cbafae82">Re:Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Opinions as in wedding attire, shoe styles, etc. and also pre wedding events for ex. Stag and doe activity suggestions type deal. There is never really any feed back. Also our venue is holding an info date in july for all involved in the big day. Now this isn't a mandatory thing where all the girls need to come. but after rarely receiving feedback on much of anything is it rude to not extend the invite to save the rejection? Or do you just invite all and forget about it. Knowing it'll all be over before you know it?
    Posted by Roseblair[/QUOTE]


    Tell you what. Let me help with your Stag and Doe ideas. Don't have a fundraiser for your wedding. Have the wedding you can afford. There ya go. One less thing to worry about.
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  • rb1734arb1734a member
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:a8d2be77-46fe-449f-9315-36626003ec5e">Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day? : The wedding industry will give you "bridesmaid duties". These are crap. A friend will likely offer to host a shower or a party, but that needs to be her decision. Also, there is someone great to help with wedding planning BS ... It's called the groom. It's his wedding, too. If it's too much to handle, you can scale it back or hire someone to help. Your maids are not your slaves.
    Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]

    <div>I didn't say they were "slaves" but I feel as though when you agree to be in a bridal party, that you know what you're signing up for.  I've gone through so much cr*p for my friends' weddings that everyone knows what is expected of them.  We all do it for each other-it is what it is!  I just feel like every bride deserves the ultimate experience, and those closest to hear should help her get it!</div>
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  • TXKristanTXKristan
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:77f9d260-4af1-4839-9ade-9ea5fc2f90cc">Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day? : Uh yeah, simple google search:  <a href="http://www.perfect-wedding-day.com/bridesmaid-duties.html" rel="nofollow">http://www.perfect-wedding-day.com/bridesmaid-duties.html</a> Check out #1.  Clearly, it IS the responsibility of the bridesmaids to help plan.  Is this really that difficult?  People are so obtuse.
    Posted by rb1734a[/QUOTE]



    Those articles are written by the wedding industry in the hopes that you'll spend thousands of dollars on stuff you don't need. They also don't care about how the friendship between bride & bridesmaid end up after the wedding.

    Let me ask this .... If you had the following women that are the closest of your friends, would you want them as your bridesmaids?
    1) a friend that barely earns minimum wage and lives 4 hours away, who is also a BM in. Wedding 3 months before your own?
    2) a friend who is getting married 3 months before you and has 3 children
    3) a friend who travels for work 4-5 days / week and lives an hour away
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  • ViczaesarViczaesar
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:e315f92f-146f-4792-870a-0c72b92ddc24">Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]What's a girl to do when you have 4 bm who are willing to help with plans at a moments notice and one who basically gives off the "who cares" vibe and I now have myself questioning my bp choices. Any questions or opinions I put out mainly get responded by all my other girls but one, and all the parties and planning dates we've set I have myself down one bm regularly. I get the impression that she's uninterested and the wedding is 4 months away. What do I do now?
    Posted by Roseblair[/QUOTE]
    A girl plans her own wedding and is grateful that 4 of her good friends are able and willing to help at a moment's notice.
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  • ViczaesarViczaesar
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:3c7994ce-792f-46a8-a1c4-26a5fc494939">Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day? : I didn't say they were "slaves" but I feel as though when you agree to be in a bridal party, that you know what you're signing up for.  I've gone through so much cr*p for my friends' weddings that everyone knows what is expected of them.  We all do it for each other-it is what it is!  I just feel like every bride deserves the ultimate experience, and those closest to hear should help her get it!
    Posted by rb1734a[/QUOTE]
    Nope, you are absolutely incorrect.  I hope to hell you're joking and you don't really think the crap you're spewing is true.
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  • LoredLored
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:686b1632-be0e-4d31-b372-3bbc741941db">Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Well, if an article on TK claims it, it MUST be true. Looking at the bad advice you are giving all over the boards makes me pray you are just a troll.
    Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]



    No, no if its on the Internet, it's true!!! Also, if my friend did it and my cousin knows her boyfriend's sister's co-worker also did it, it must not be rude.

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  • rb1734arb1734a member
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:2a3116b3-687e-4908-b328-86692f96c6c6">Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day? : Those articles are written by the wedding industry in the hopes that you'll spend thousands of dollars on stuff you don't need. They also don't care about how the friendship between bride & bridesmaid end up after the wedding. Let me ask this .... If you had the following women that are the closest of your friends, would you want them as your bridesmaids? 1) a friend that barely earns minimum wage and lives 4 hours away, who is also a BM in. Wedding 3 months before your own? 2) a friend who is getting married 3 months before you and has 3 children 3) a friend who travels for work 4-5 days / week and lives an hour away
    Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>1) I hope she would be a bridesmaid!  It would be easier to help plan my wedding if she's already planning her own. </div><div>2)  The kids would be really cute flower girls-yes!</div><div>3)  I would never ask a friend to come help me during the week, that's what weekends are for (duh!)</div><div>
    </div><div>You make this all sound so selfish, but I think that your nearest and dearest should (and will) go above and beyond for you.  After all, you only get one day, and it should be magical!

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  • ViczaesarViczaesar
    OP, deleting your OP is immature and rude.  Changing the title of your thread will do wonders for gathering three times as much attention as you would otherwise, though, so kudos for that.
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  • TXKristanTXKristan
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:3c7994ce-792f-46a8-a1c4-26a5fc494939">Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day? : I didn't say they were "slaves" but I feel as though when you agree to be in a bridal party, that you know what you're signing up for.  I've gone through so much cr*p for my friends' weddings that everyone knows what is expected of them.  We all do it for each other-it is what it is!  I just feel like every bride deserves the ultimate experience, and those closest to hear should help her get it!
    Posted by rb1734a[/QUOTE]



    Did you have them sign a contract where they agree to the terms and conditions of being your bridesmaid? And that's wonderful that you did so much for them. Friendships are not tit for tat. I had a pretty amazingly ultimate experience regardless of the fact that they didn't throw me any showers. They didn't join me at the reception venue to pick out colors or flowers.

    Also, let me ask you this .... You seem resentful that you went thru crap for your friends. If it was such a terrible experience, why would you want them to experience the same for you and have the same resent??
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  • TXKristanTXKristan
    edited March 2013
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:0494c5f0-a4ab-4b2e-8c3e-6a497562cdd2">Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day? : 1) I hope she would be a bridesmaid!  It would be easier to help plan my wedding if she's already planning her own.  2)  The kids would be really cute flower girls-yes! 3)  I would never ask a friend to come help me during the week, that's what weekends are for (duh!) You make this all sound so selfish, but I think that your nearest and dearest should (and will) go above and beyond for you.  After all, you only get one day, and it should be magical!
    Posted by rb1734a[/QUOTE]



    They were all my bridesmaids, and none of them did any of the things you expect your "friends" to do. And, regarding the friend who travels .... Have you ever had a job that requires travel 4-5 days / week? I do. It's pretty stinking hard, and when I was home, I had things I had to do for myself. I also did not ask my SIL (#2) just because her daughter was cute. I don't use my friends.

    And I had a phenomenal wedding.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:a7bc8781-7313-4115-8b96-2dd4cb185c2b">Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day? : They were all my bridesmaids, and none of them did any of the things you expect your "friends" to do. And, regarding the friend who travels .... Have you ever had a job that requires travel 4-5 days / week? I do. It's pretty stinking hard, and when I was home, I had things I had to do for myself. I also did not ask my SIL (#2) just because her daughter was cute. I don't use my friends. And I had a phenomenal wedding.
    Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Actually, yes, I HAVE travelled 4-5 days a week for work.  In fact, I travel overseas for work, and often, and while my schedule sucks sometimes, I make time for those people important to me.  In fact, when I AM in town, I often work 14-16 hour days.  And even when I'm not, I'm still available either through Skype or Gchat, or whatever.  Just because I'm in Signapore or Hong Kong or Moscow during the week doesn't mean I can't help out, look at pics, and provide input.  In fact, because I'm 8-15 hours away, I'm often up when they're researching in the evening, so I SHOULD be helping out.  I'm not resentful that I went through all that for my friends-it's what we DO for each other. We all make sacrifices, that's why we are best friends.  

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:cb35a5f9-829b-4459-a8f8-e6f3fb8b50b2">Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day? : Actually, yes, I HAVE travelled 4-5 days a week for work.  In fact, I travel overseas for work, and often, and while my schedule sucks sometimes, I make time for those people important to me.  In fact, when I AM in town, I often work 14-16 hour days.  And even when I'm not, I'm still available either through Skype or Gchat, or whatever.  Just because I'm in Signapore or Hong Kong or Moscow during the week doesn't mean I can't help out, look at pics, and provide input.  In fact, because I'm 8-15 hours away, I'm often up when they're researching in the evening, so I SHOULD be helping out.  I'm not resentful that I went through all that for my friends-it's what we DO for each other. We all make sacrifices, that's why we are best friends.  
    Posted by rb1734a[/QUOTE]

    Superwoman!
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  • TXKristanTXKristan
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:cb35a5f9-829b-4459-a8f8-e6f3fb8b50b2">Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day? : Actually, yes, I HAVE travelled 4-5 days a week for work.  In fact, I travel overseas for work, and often, and while my schedule sucks sometimes, I make time for those people important to me.  In fact, when I AM in town, I often work 14-16 hour days.  And even when I'm not, I'm still available either through Skype or Gchat, or whatever.  Just because I'm in Signapore or Hong Kong or Moscow during the week doesn't mean I can't help out, look at pics, and provide input.  In fact, because I'm 8-15 hours away, I'm often up when they're researching in the evening, so I SHOULD be helping out.  I'm not resentful that I went through all that for my friends-it's what we DO for each other. We all make sacrifices, that's why we are best friends.  
    Posted by rb1734a[/QUOTE]



    If you're happy to do it, then stop referring to it as the 'crap' you went through. Mine didn't volunteer, and I am perfectly okay with that. My husband & I planned our wedding together. Few people are as excited about your wedding as you are.
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  • TXKristanTXKristan
    In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day? : Superwoman!
    Posted by NYCMercedes[/QUOTE]

    Apparently!!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:1ee0442d-011d-4204-ae70-2105b856d81b">Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day? : Superwoman!
    Posted by NYCMercedes[/QUOTE]

    <div>I only wish!  If I were superwoman, I wouldn't be tired all the time and cranky.  Or have to diet to not gain weight since I can't always get to the gym.  If only!</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:a7dc395b-2a10-4da7-90cf-5444d3ea03cc">Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day? : If you're happy to do it, then stop referring to it as the 'crap' you went through. Mine didn't volunteer, and I am perfectly okay with that. My husband & I planned our wedding together. Few people are as excited about your wedding as you are.
    Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Good point Kristan.  Guess I'm just cranky tonight.  I'm glad I was able to be there for them and help them out, and overall, its a positive experience that I look back upon.  I guess I just always assume my friends share in my excitement, but I also really love weddings (maybe more than most).

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-i-have-a-mia-bm-on-my-big-day?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:4abe3389-295f-4275-bf0a-b50c0b44b660Post:ba9270d5-753b-4d54-9dea-9aa810639884">Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day? : I only wish!  If I were superwoman, I wouldn't be tired all the time and cranky.  Or have to diet to not gain weight since I can't always get to the gym.  If only!
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    I suggest setting boundaries for yourself. You don't need to be putting your health at risk for things like this, then martyr yourself.
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    This rb person is just trying to get everyone all riled up. Troll fo sho.
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  • rb1734arb1734a member
    In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day? : I suggest setting boundaries for yourself. You don't need to be putting your health at risk for things like this, then martyr yourself.
    Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]
     
    Something I am actively working on.  I'm sorry that my opinions got people so heated-I don't spend a lot of time on the knot, and didn't realize what's the norm (though I still don't agree with many of you).  Can we agree to disagree?  Off to catch my flight, so don't think I'm just ignoring.
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  • TXKristanTXKristan
    In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day?:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Will I have a m.i.a bm on my big day? : Good point Kristan.  Guess I'm just cranky tonight.  I'm glad I was able to be there for them and help them out, and overall, its a positive experience that I look back upon.  I guess I just always assume my friends share in my excitement, but I also really love weddings (maybe more than most).
    Posted by rb1734a[/QUOTE]

    And that's understandable to be disappointed that they don't share that same excitement. Just don't hold it over them. Also remember that a true gift is when you expect nothing in return. And, you have a forum of a bunch if women who can give you advice about how things work. Many of us are married old hags who have been there. We like weddings too and are happy to share wisdom from our own exoeriences.
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